✔️ #15 - Wear bright red lipstick out somewhere
I have never been one to wear a lot of makeup. It's not because I was blessed with perfect, ageless skin or beautiful coloring. Mostly, I'm lazy and honestly, in my 33 years on this earth, I've never been properly informed on how to apply makeup correctly. When I do attempt to wear anything other than my typical black mascara, I feel like a dressed up clown.
I don't like to draw attention to myself. I've always been somewhat of an introvert and would rather shrink into a corner than stand out in the crowd. My comfort level has always been on the outside of everything because the middle feels too exposed.
For these reasons, I've always avoided wearing the color red. There's something about it that makes me feel immediately self-conscious. I feel as though the color itself screams for attention, something I've always avoided like the plague.
But busting out of my comfort zone is the whole motivation behind the #33things in the first place, which is why the fifteenth item on my checklist is to wear bright red lipstick in public.
It is the first item I checked off my list and it was quite an empowering experience. My sister planned a fabulous birthday dinner at a trendy little restaurant with some of my family and it became clear rather quickly that it was the perfect opportunity for me to check off my first item.
After fumbling through my meager collection of lipstick, I found a shade of red that seemed to do the trick. I glanced in the mirror at my reflection and almost didn't recognize the face staring back at me. It's amazing how much one change can transform your appearance.
I felt unsure of myself and nervously laughed as I met my family at the front door. Everyone noticed right away, but I only received the highest of compliments. I was highly aware that the compliments were coming from people who were technically required by blood to make me feel better about myself, but something about their reaction made the corners of my rouge emblazoned lips turn up.
When we arrived at the crowded restaurant, I felt myself automatically glance down at the floor avoiding eye contact with anyone around me. I faltered a few steps, dragging behind the rest of the party I was with, before I reminded myself that this was about pushing me out of comfort zones. And so I forced myself to look up. I walked to our table with my head up and with each step I gained a little bit of confidence. I felt myself puckering my lips without meaning to, unsure of where the instinct even came from.
The meal went on and we had a wonderful night, complete with a champagne toast for my birthday, but I noticed something changing as each course was brought to the table. I was no longer folding in on myself, trying to disappear in a sense to those around me. I sat up taller in my seat. I smiled and felt confident. Hell, I felt fierce.
On our way out of the restaurant, I locked eyes with two different people and smiled boldly. It could have been the influence of the champagne, but I found myself fighting the urge to wink as I walked by. Something about wearing the red lipstick made me feel different about myself. I was no longer trying to hide, but flashing a badge that said, "take notice of me," and people did. I liked it. I didn't feel invisible. I felt powerful and sexy.
And so, my loves, this is the lesson that I've learned from this first little checkmark on the list; change can be good. Pushing myself out of my comfort zone is challenging at times, but so worth the momentary fear I experience. Change is the catalyst for growth and I want to do a lot of growing this year. Wearing bright red lipstick helped me gain confidence I didn't know existed, and confidence is sexy as hell. Whether it's wearing bright red lipstick or something equivalent that scares the heck out of you, get out of your comfort zone and try it. You'll gain confidence you never knew you had.
I, myself, will be wearing a lot more red lipstick in the future. I hope you all do, too!